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What Are The Experiences That Have Formed YOU?

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My name is Nicole Opara, I am a 23 year old with a loud laugh and a huge appetite( did someone say Panda Express?).  I truly believe Fried Ice Cream from The Roll heals a broken heart. I want to travel to all the places Jesus and his disciples walked and when I move out of my parents house I am getting a puppy. That's a fact.

  My name is Nicole and..  




School has always been so difficult for me and discouraging. But I think God has shown and continues to show his grace and patience towards me through it all.


I have had my first and second kiss and I am hoping the day I get my third will be with my husband.


I have always struggled to little to no confidence growing up and being teased and bullied didn't help much either.


My mind can not recollect how old I was or the dates of my suicide attempts. But I know they happened. I do remeber praying to God every time that I wouldn't wake up the next day.. Let's just say I am glad God doesn't answer ALL our prayers.…

(7) Things To Do To Maintain Your Mental Health While On Your Period

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It is that lovely time of the month, mother nature has decided to sh*t on you again huh? lol

 I do not know about you, but when it comes to my period not only am I experiencing unbearable cramps, lower back pain and a migraine that makes me want to pull my head off of my body. My emotional and mental health  can be out of whack as well. I believe that the way you choose to take care of yourself during your menstrual cycle is important not only for your physical health but your mental health .

As someone who struggles with depressive thoughts, I have to be mindful of my body and mind during my time of the month. With that being said, these are some of the things I do to maintain my mental health during my period..






Be okay with taking more than one break.

In other words take as many as you need! This is not the time to be overworking yourself because it just leads to frustration and exhaustion. When those two come together it is not fun, so do not be afraid to give yourself "you&q…

The Gift Black Student Organizations on Campus Gives Young Black Women...

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" I consider myself a crayon, I might not be your favorite color but one day you are going to need me to complete your picture" - Lauryn Hill 




Middle school I was told that I was to dark and that stuck with me. I'm to dark and if I am to dark I must be to ugly, to loud, to rebellious. These assumptions/ stereotypes started to get forced in my head and to be honest I was either  to black or not black enough.

Or I was..to skinny
My hair was to nappy
My lips were to big
my arms and legs looked like "burnt sticks".
And It became okay to mimic my so called "animal language"
I remember that joke like it was yesterday.
I was not respected by guys my age because I was the one with the "animal culture and language".

More and more I became inferior, and more and more I hated how I looked. Being black was ugly. Being a black women was ugly. I was ugly. At least that's what I thought...




 I transferred to CSUF and immediately was introduced to a sma…

I Confessed My Feelings To My Crush.. Now What?

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Hey Friends!

If you have been keeping up with my blog for awhile you know that a couple months ago I told my crush that I like him.. you can read about my love fest in these post (LOL) ...

I Hate Having A Crush Pt 1
I Hate Having A Crush Pt 2
I Hate Having A Crush Pt 3


With that background, you can better understand where I am coming at with this post.


  I feel like no one really addresses what's next. Okay so you told your crush everything, is your feelings suppose to magically disappear after that? It may seem like its not a big deal, its not like you were in a relationship. Nonetheless, these are emotions and feelings that are as much valid as if you were in a relationship and you both broke up.

I will say this, after telling "J" and receiving a respectful honest response from him I felt a HUGE relief. "J" and I talk once in awhile and are building a good friendship, which I am beyond blessed about.

But I will say this, I still smile when I see his pictures a…