Why I Stopped Looking For Self Confidence

One of my favorite youtubers Sadie Robertson  was answering a question from one of her subscribers and the question was this.. “How do you find self confidence?” and Sadie’s answer was interesting and sparked my attention, the first thing she said was  “That is the way not to find Self -Confidence, is looking for confidence in yourself”. 
 She elaborated by explaining that if you try to find confidence in who you are, what you look like, how many degrees you have or what job you have, you will never find the confidence you are looking for.  In other words, essentially what we are ultimately craving is confidence that will last us our whole life, how do we expect to find that everlasting, secure confidence if we are looking in ourselves, as humans, who are not secure, and who are finite and imperfect. The only one we can find our confidence in is in Christ, the prefect One. 

I’m going to link Sadie's video below because I truly believe that you will all be blessed by it. I have watched that video four times already and just started to relate it in my life.

Sadie Robertson - Self Confidence

A huge part of my depression comes from my lack of confidence and my constant feeling of inadequacy. Just about anything that goes wrong or any disappointment or confrontation that occurs in my life  hits me so hard and my mind starts heading into a dark place. Just this past month I have been seeping into depression due to the fact that I have been feeling very inadequate when it comes to my academics. All of that has definitely taken a toll on my mental and emotional health, why? Because to be completely honest I put my confidence in whether I am keeping up with the pace of my education, or whether I will attain that college degree on time, I put my confidence in  whether my parents are proud of me or not or in having friends and having people enjoy my company etc..

Hebrew 10:35 “So do not throw away this confident trust in the Lord. Remember the great reward it brings you”!

I have been forgetting that this life I am living and the dreams and career I am pursuing is not about me. God is the one who breathed life into me and instilled the passions and dreams that I have. He is the one who has been directing and will always direct my path if I allow him too. So yes, the title of this blog post is true. I have stopped looking for self confidence, because I will not find it as long as I am looking for it through my abilities, my title or accomplishments. Instead, I want to start trusting in the confidence I have in the one who created me, and I hope you do to. 

" May your confidence in God, be your excitement to inspire the confidence of God in others" - Emma Mae Jenkins 

Nikki O. 


  1. This is such an interesting post! I used to also put my confidence in how well I was doing, my accomplishments etc but now I just like to focus on what it is that makes me happy because that's what's more important to me.

    L xo

    1. Thank you for reading & commenting Lindsay! And I agree, one of the important things is making sure we have not lost joy in everyday and everything we are doing. (:

  2. I think when we compare ourselves with others we feel inadequate and confidence drops. I read a quote once which said “comparison is the thief of joy”. You have such a positive attitude, thank you so much for sharing and I thought the bible verse was very inspirational <3

    Bexa | www.hellobexa.com

    1. You are welcome, I am so glad you liked the post! (: And I love that quote I think I wrote a post on that quote awhile ago! There is so much truth in that quote. Thank you for reading Bexa (:

  3. Nikki, I completely understand. Depression is so powerful and so good at keeping us down. The main thought I had when I read your post is that life is long (if we're lucky!) There is no timeline you have to follow, even though it feels like there's one! If I could go back in time I would tell myself that every day. When I was in school I was so focused on who I thought I should be and what I thought I should be doing that I never really enjoyed anything. I was so focused on where I wanted to be that I missed out on where I was.

    1. That is such a good point, I am like that to. I am so focused on the end goal and where I want to be a year from now or where I feel like I am suppose to be, that I miss the beauty of the present moment. Its difficult because I have been raised to believe that there is a certain time to finish a degree, get a career, get married etc etc so when I do not reach that expectation I become so hard on myself. I am so glad I'm not the only one who is or has gone through this. Thank you for your honest comment! & I love your blog(:


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