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Don't Judge A Book By Its Cover / The Most Confident Girls Struggle Too..

Tuesday October 10th was World Mental Health Day.

For those of you who may not know what that is, it is a day used to bring awareness to the different debilitating mental illnesses. I appreciate the different days like suicide awareness day, that are used to bring awareness and attention to Mental illness. Not only do I love the awareness part of it but it is comforting to see how many people open up on social media about their own struggles in order to encourage many and remind others that there is hope and people that care.

I was scrolling through my Instagram on Tuesday night and I was amazed of my peers who spoke up and even some who I never even considered to care about this sort of thing were on Instagram being an encouragement. While I was scrolling through my Instagram there was this one girl who I went to high school with that posted about how she has been struggling with anxiety and depression lately to the point where she didn't even want to get out of bed. But then sh…

" Fear Not.." Have Peace In The Midst Of Chaos

I woke up on Monday morning after a rough Sunday night reciting to myself, "its a new day" "yesterday was the past" "focus on the present". As I was hyping myself up in the bathroom in front of the mirror I picked up my phone and started scrolling through Instagram. Suddenly I started seeing post after post "pray for Vegas" "RIP to the 58 people killed in Vegas" "What's wrong with our country, such a tragedy" I was confused for a second and totally oblivious, so I searched up Las Vegas to see what all the condolesences was about. That is when I saw the news.. "Shooting at Las Vegas Concert Last Night; 58 killed & hundreds injured" The first thing I said to myself was Dear God, didn't we just have a natural disaster hit Puerto Rico? How much more tragedy can this world take?"

I started to feel a sense of fear crawl on me, it wasn't like that small anxiety you get when you are about to start a n…

I Hate Having A Crush

Okay hate is a strong word, maybe more like strongly dislike.

I don't know about you, but having feelings for someone, getting butterflies, being vulnerable emotionally, spiritually, physically etc scares the life out of me. Just the fact that if you want a friendship to progress into something more, you have to be willing to put yourself out there and be ready for the possibility of rejection and the thought of that makes me cringe. Liking someone and trying to figure out how to go about expressing yourself to the person or wanting to just simply tell the person how great they are without coming off weird or creepy is so complicated.

Can you guess why I am ranting about such a thing? Yes, you may have already guessed it. I have a crush on someone.

The frustrating thing is that I don't even know how these feelings even developed. I only met this person towards the beginning of this year because we had a class together and then became friends. We basically hung out in similar…

BeBrave Story #4: Olivia Morgan

Dating with anxiety is like living with a tone of bricks permanently strapped on your back.

Constantly having to put this huge guard up when in your head you truly like that person but no matter what they do and say to convince you they're genuine you still have that horrible gut feeling like you're just waiting for it all go wrong so you can finally get to say 'I told you so.' However, after literally losing the one person I thought I'd never lose.. I decided it's time to truly love myself before I even try to love anybody else and I do, I have way way more confidence than I did.




I used to be my own worst enemy but I realized no one can help me other than myself, no one can better me other than me so for as long as I can remember I made it my little mission to better myself for the next guy that'll come into my life and ACTUALLY stay. I guess I've always had that fear of people that I love leave me because you can't ever make a person stay, they&…

#BeBrave Story #3: Taylor Harvey

On January first of this year I tried to end my life.
I was dealing with a pretty severe depressive episode.  Everything that I tried didn’t seem to be working.  Moving home, starting antidepressants, starting counseling, reaching out to friends and family.  I just continued sinking deeper and deeper. Obviously, as I am here writing to you, my suicide attempt failed.  Things are better now, but my depression is far from gone. 
My world still revolves around my mental illness as I do everything I can to manage it; I am terrified of it.  My mental health blog is constantly on my mind as I try to battle the stigma associated with all mental illnesses.  I am working so hard to make a change in this world that I am sometimes immersed in it all.





Recently a public figure committed suicide.  Mental health is being put in the spotlight for now, and it is amazing to me how many people out there do not understand.  They see mental illness and suicide as a choice, not as a sickness.  They say …

Dear Black People.. Let Us Reach Beyond Oursleves

I have been wanting to write this post to all of you for so long but did not know how to go about it. I did not know how to really start, so I guess i'll start with introducing you to two stories. One of them I am sure you have read on my blog before.

 A couple days ago I watched a Ted Talk in which a young muslim lady named  Susanne Barakate talks about how her brother and her sister in law were tragically murdered by their neighbor whom had been harassing them in the past. She gives a descriptive story of the incident and how there has been no justice for her family. The link to the Ted Talk is below if you want to hear the story.

Islamophobia Killed My Brother






Also, There is a post I wrote a couple months ago called Family Violence: We Have Lost Love In Our Homes and I share the sad news of a young boy who was murdered by his own mother because she hated the fact that he was gay.



Why am I sharing these heavy stories? It is because there is a lot of work that needs to be done.

T…

#BeBrave Story #2: Charlotta Eve

I have mentioned my depression on my blog several times before. I kinda just threw it in there, between words, not really telling you much about it. My depression wasn’t the easy kind – it wasn’t about me feeling a bit down. It was me being completely helpless, the depression taking over my whole life. And I almost let it.
I’m not afraid of talking about mental health, depression or anxiety. I’m not even scared of telling you, that I was once so depressed, I ended up in a mental hospital behind closed doors. I can – even though I rather not go too much into detail – tell you, that I have been suicidal. Those are not the things I’m worried about, when I hit publish. And I’m gonna hit publish, because I feel like I have something to say after all and I feel like it has some meaning. To me, anyway. What I’m worried for, is that I choose the wrong words, when the right words mean everything. That this post turns to negative, instead of positive – because even though there’s so much pain an…

Valuable Lessons Learned As a CNA // Seeing Jesus In Every Client

When you think of a first job for a young adult, usually you hear of your peers working at malls, front desk in school offices, or restaurants. My first job ever has been nothing close to that. I started earlier this year around February, as a CNA ( Certified Nurse Assistant) in a Intermediate Behavioral Facility. I care for mentally disabled clients, which includes feeding them, transferring patients who may weigh up to 120 lbs to their bed or wheelchair. I also give them showers, change their clothes, and assist them in a majority of their daily living activities because they are unable to achieve those task themselves.

My last day there will be July 22nd because I recently got another job at another facility, but I was just thinking as to the valuable lessons I have learned through working as a CNA thus far. The appreciation of my own life and capabilities as well as my increased compassion and empathy for people as a whole. There are certain jobs that are challenging, but when yo…

#BeBrave Story #1: Ashley Bennett

Looking back at the last couple years, there have been 
many struggles and hardships. Many family members and  friends warned us that the first year of marriage would be  the toughest. We supposed they were referring to the  transition one must make when leaving behind the single life in  order to live a better one with an eternal companion. I don’t  think we supposed wrong, but Heavenly Father had a little  more in mind for us. 

Only a few months after our wedding day, I began to  experience frighteningly unpleasant mood swings. My initial  reactions to almost everything became angry and bitter. These drastic changes in my personality made me feel lonely with no hope of ever returning to my “normal” or true self.  Prayerfully, Jayson and I decided I needed professional help.  I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety for the first  time in my life. 

In the October 2015 General Conference, President  Devin G. Durrant shared, “Christ invites us to do many hard  things because He knows we will be ble…

The #BeBrave Series Is Here! / Why Is It Important To Share Your Mental Health Story With The World?

Hey Friends! Hope you are all doing well and had a fabulous 4th of July. If you have been following me on instagram, which if you are not you can right HERE. I have been obsessing over my first series on this blog that I am ready to launch today!





Basically through this series I want to encourage anyone who is struggling or has struggled with any form of mental illness, to share their story. Now you may be wondering "okay Nikki, what is the significance of this?" "Why are you asking us to be vulnerable? That is the worse thing you could possibly ask of a young adult!.."

 I know, being vulnerable and sharing a part of yourself that is not put together and maybe even messy can be scary at times. Having that in mind I wanted to make sure your doubts were ceased and you could participate in this series feeling empowered and encouraged. So I reached out to the community, to people just like you and asked the same question:

Why is it important for people to share their me…

To The Student Who Is Taking Longer Than Four Years To Graduate...

I have not written a college related post in a long time so I figured why not, especially since this particular one has been on my mind lately. As it seems a lot of people have graduated this month I want to start by saying CONGRATS! to you all. It has been so exciting to hear about all of your post college grad life and your plans for the future.

With that being said, I want to speak in particularly to the student who has not graduated yet, maybe you have one more year and you will not be graduating in that expected four year mark.. or maybe you are still in community college and feel stuck among the waiting lists and endless GE requirements. I'm writing to that student who is scrolling through Instagram looking at all those grad photos of your classmates from high school and your thinking "that could of been me" "that should of been me" "Maybe if I had.." " Maybe I should of.." I want you to pause with those thoughts and the scrolling and …

One Year Blog Anniversary!!! What Is Next For "Her Daring Thoughts"?

Hey Friends! 
I hope you are all doing well, this is a very exciting post because on this day June 24th of last year I created this blog "Her Daring Thoughts" and posted my first blog post! If you want to read it click HERE



It is funny because a lot of people say they are a bit embarrassed of the first blog post that they ever wrote, but I am not so much embarrassed but taken aback at the fact that I knew the minute I started this blog that I wanted to pour into young adult lives and encourage anyone struggling emotionally, spiritually and mentally. Why? because I have been there and I know what it is like to feel completely alone even when you may be surrounded with the people closest to you. From the beginning I wanted this blog to be a place where a person considering suicide can come and decide you know what maybe there is hope and maybe asking for help is not a shameful thing. 
I can not believe it has already been a year, and in just a year I have connected with oth…