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Criticism Hurts But The Growth Is Rewarding







I have a love & hate relationship with criticism.

There are certain circumstances where I can handle it. Although when it comes to my character, growth, goals, & education I do not like being corrected so much that my "efforts" go little to un noticed.

* I had a rough night last night, excuse the angry tweet lol.*

I really get tense when it is my family, the people closest to me criticizing me the most. I mean obviously they will since they know me longer and are aware of my full potential. Nevertheless, I believe that is what makes it more hurtful, the mere fact that they are blood related, and they have so much faith in me drives them to prefect my every move and decision. Maybe I am being sensitive, you tell me. For me I can not stand when the criticism overrides the praise...


On the other hand I welcome it more than ever, because criticism is essential for a person's growth and well being. I do not believe I would be half the person I am today if it weren't for the constant hard core correction I get on a daily basis from my parents or my professors. As millennials entering into adulthood it is only right that we allow the people more wiser than us and closest to tell us when our best is not being shown. It is crucial that we are not being fed sugar coated advice every so often and be told how it is plainly.

Although it may sting and you may even shed some tears here or there; it is through criticism that resilience is found.

So how do you become more welcoming to criticism? YOU PURSUE. Work Hard to achieve your goals and dreams. That is where criticism comes in and growth begins.

How do you deal with criticism? REFLECT. Don't be to fast in trying to defend yourself or jump to conclusions. Decide on whether you are receiving constructive criticism or just plain discouragement. Then, reflect on yourself.

I have a love & hate relationship with criticism how about you? Any advice you have about the topic? Definitely comment below and let's chat about it.





Nikki O.
My Depression Story got featured on the SheUnplugged.com blog! Definitely give it a read :)


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  1. I always try and turn criticism into a piece of advice 'to be even better'. That always helps me to be a little bit more positive!
    Aleeha xXx
    http://www.halesaaw.com/

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    1. That is a good idea! To turn criticism into a small piece of advice that way it doesn't seem so intimidating and you can take it as advice that will make you grow better as a person :). Love your idea Hale! Thanks for the comment <3

      Nikki O. | www.herdarinthoughts.blogspot.com

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  2. I have a love-hate relationship with criticism too. Taking it with grace is something I really need to work on, because no matter how unpleasant it is, it'll help you grow in the end!

    Thanks for the great post!

    Emma | www.creativexplorations.com

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    1. Exactly! You are so right :). Taking criticism with grace is difficult, but at the end it is worth the resilience you gain from it.
      Awe so glad you liked it Emma, thanks for your comment!

      Nikki O. | www.herdaringthoughts.blogspot.com

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  3. I find criticism really hard to deal with. I get defensive and it makes me want to give up. I dont know if it's something I'll ever be able to deal with!

    Corinne x
    www.skinnedcartree.com

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    1. I totally understand Corinne! I get so defensive when I am being criticized & it also makes me want to hide in a hole. I think it is definitely a life long journey in learning to handle criticism.

      P.S: I am fan-girling that you commented on my post! I love your blog, it is so informative & relatable (:

      Nikki O. | www.herdaringthoughts.blogspot.com

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  4. I definitely love input because my family knows me the best! But I also understand how it feels when it's not on the upside! And they would never steer you astray so it's always good!!

    Love post!

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    1. You are so right! Family definitely knows what's best.:)
      Thank you! I'm so glad you liked it.


      Nikki O. | www.herdaringthoughts.blogspot.com

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  5. I do not mind criticism if it's constructive however sometimes it's just hard to take 'you are fat', 'that's wrong', 'don't do it your way' because it literally gives zero input how to improve. http://www.igaberry.com

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    1. I totally agree! There is a difference between constructive criticism & just plain discouragement.
      Thanks so much for your comment Iga!

      Nikki O.| www.herdaringthoughts.blogspot.com

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  6. How to deal with criticism? For me the best is ignore the criticism. And ignore the most of people even If that causes me a lot of of anxiety. My best wishes and blessings for you
    xx

    www.sakuranko.com

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    1. Thank u so much for your input Sakuranko! I love your idea of ignoring the opinions that don't matter. :) Blessing to you to! 💕


      Nikki O. | www.herdaringthoughts.blogspot.com

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  7. I often feel the same way. I want criticism because I know it will help me grow. At the same time when I receive some I get defensive. I'm slowly learning to accept criticism and use it to better myself. But sometimes it's disappointing when a person starts criticising me and I realise that it could have been applied to me years ago but by now I've already figured that out on my own and I'm heading in a different direction.

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    1. Me too! I definitely need to work on not getting so defensive when I am getting criticized. And I totally understand, especially when you are making progress and changing you would love to hear a "Good job" or something instead of a late criticism.
      Thank you so much for reading Halyna! :)

      Nikki O.

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  8. As someone whose constantly changing and learning more about life and herself each day, I've learned that not everyone is going to like every single thing I do and that I will be criticized somehow. I've become somebody who prefers to just hear straight-up honest opinions, so long as they're constructive and not destructive, and not any sugar-coated nonsense. Sometimes you just need to hear people tell it like it is, because how else are we going to grow and become better versions of ourselves? Thanks for sharing!! :)

    Abeni | http://heyabeni.wordpress.com

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    1. You are definitely right! In order to become the best version of ourselves, criticism is key. Sometimes you just need to suck it up and hear the truth I am definitely with you on that!:) Thank you so much for your input Abeni😊

      Nikki O.

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